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Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 5:26 pm
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Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 6:19 pm
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Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 11:32 pm
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Posted: Tue Nov 13, 2007 11:43 pm
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I agree with you. More people need to step up and be the bigger person, but we live on a planet where it'll never happen. I actually ended up dropping out of school, because of all the immature friends who did things to ruin an 'enemies' life for no apparent reason. Heh. I was the victum of one girl all because a boy liked me and not her. Which is kind of retarded because two days after we got together and left me because he wanted to be with her instead, so in the end she won but she still wanted to make my life hell. Some people, I just don't get. But see. After she spread rumors about me, (Which were really bad, and I actually ended up getting molested from it because some guys thought I was 'easy to get' after that.) She had gotten hurt by one of her own 'friends', and came crying to me. Of course, not wanting to push someone in need away, I comforted her and forgave her for what she did; trying to be the bigger person, and the nicer person (Idiotic in that case, eh?) Well. About two months later, at Halloween, she had come over to spend he night along with a bunch of other friends. Cept.. When we were out, she had paid a bunch of people in Clown costumes to tackle me and actually try to molest me too.
Note that I'm terrified of clowns; I actually had a nervous break down after that, and she knew just how scared of them I was.
So.. In the end, she tried to come back to me again but I pushed her away; and now she's out of my life for good.. Still talking s**t about me when I haven't seen her for about a year, but hey..
Just be careful on who you choose to be nice too..
Some people don't deserve it.
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Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 12:45 pm
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Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 2:44 pm
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Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 3:38 pm
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Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 3:59 pm
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Posted: Thu Nov 15, 2007 4:13 am
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meleny7 Winter_Equinox *hug* I am so terribly sorry to hear that. But even then, I don't think I could do that to her, because if you keep being nice to her ,she's going to question why? and then she'll realize that it doesn't bother you and then she'll understand (or hopefully) that she was wrong to treat you that way. I think if you show her more love, she'll feel quite silly about herself and question her self and her origianl motives. i kinda disagree a bit. some people just dont get it. they just keep on changing and then stabbing people in the back again, then coming back thinking that its going to be ok like its a joke. trust me i know, i had several people do that and thats why i dont trust people. some people are just naturally evil.
if the person is a real jerk, the idea is not to be nice to them to the point of them taking advantage of you.. definately dont let them do that. but there is a saying that goes 'kill 'em with kindness'. this is disarming and a mean person generally doesnt know how to react. now, they could put up a front when countered in this way and act even meaner.. but when they are alone they'll be thinking about your behavior, they'll probably be bewildered at first but in time I do believe they'll eventually change. could take a while tho, years maybe. depends on the maturity of the person. negativity feeds of off and breeds negativity. compassion cures it.
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Posted: Thu Nov 15, 2007 9:24 pm
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Calypsophia meleny7 Winter_Equinox *hug* I am so terribly sorry to hear that. But even then, I don't think I could do that to her, because if you keep being nice to her ,she's going to question why? and then she'll realize that it doesn't bother you and then she'll understand (or hopefully) that she was wrong to treat you that way. I think if you show her more love, she'll feel quite silly about herself and question her self and her origianl motives. i kinda disagree a bit. some people just dont get it. they just keep on changing and then stabbing people in the back again, then coming back thinking that its going to be ok like its a joke. trust me i know, i had several people do that and thats why i dont trust people. some people are just naturally evil. if the person is a real jerk, the idea is not to be nice to them to the point of them taking advantage of you.. definately dont let them do that. but there is a saying that goes 'kill 'em with kindness'. this is disarming and a mean person generally doesnt know how to react. now, they could put up a front when countered in this way and act even meaner.. but when they are alone they'll be thinking about your behavior, they'll probably be bewildered at first but in time I do believe they'll eventually change. could take a while tho, years maybe. depends on the maturity of the person. negativity feeds of off and breeds negativity. compassion cures it.
in all honesty i think that most of the time it doesnt work that way. the person that is being evil will probably not think of the person being nice to them, or if they do, they will just think the person is a push over. my way of dealing with people that hurt me, is just to take them out of my life. and they will pretty much be dead to me. dont get me wrong i do give them a chance but screwing up a second time doesnt go well with me. trying to change the way a person thinks is really hard, is all the pain really worth it, just in hope that they will change and not screw you over again and again.
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Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 6:41 pm
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meleny7 Calypsophia meleny7 Winter_Equinox *hug* I am so terribly sorry to hear that. But even then, I don't think I could do that to her, because if you keep being nice to her ,she's going to question why? and then she'll realize that it doesn't bother you and then she'll understand (or hopefully) that she was wrong to treat you that way. I think if you show her more love, she'll feel quite silly about herself and question her self and her origianl motives. i kinda disagree a bit. some people just dont get it. they just keep on changing and then stabbing people in the back again, then coming back thinking that its going to be ok like its a joke. trust me i know, i had several people do that and thats why i dont trust people. some people are just naturally evil. if the person is a real jerk, the idea is not to be nice to them to the point of them taking advantage of you.. definately dont let them do that. but there is a saying that goes 'kill 'em with kindness'. this is disarming and a mean person generally doesnt know how to react. now, they could put up a front when countered in this way and act even meaner.. but when they are alone they'll be thinking about your behavior, they'll probably be bewildered at first but in time I do believe they'll eventually change. could take a while tho, years maybe. depends on the maturity of the person. negativity feeds of off and breeds negativity. compassion cures it. in all honesty i think that most of the time it doesnt work that way. the person that is being evil will probably not think of the person being nice to them, or if they do, they will just think the person is a push over. my way of dealing with people that hurt me, is just to take them out of my life. and they will pretty much be dead to me. dont get me wrong i do give them a chance but screwing up a second time doesnt go well with me. trying to change the way a person thinks is really hard, is all the pain really worth it, just in hope that they will change and not screw you over again and again.
well, as I said, depending on the maturity of the person it could take a good long while. but a person will be more likely to change their ways when countered with the opposite reaction time and again. it doesnt mean you have to be a push over. and even if a person is being a jerk just because they want a specific response from you (fear, anger) if you dont give them that response then they'll leave you alone.
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Posted: Sat Nov 17, 2007 7:45 am
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Posted: Mon Nov 19, 2007 2:41 pm
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Posted: Mon Nov 19, 2007 9:03 pm
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Posted: Tue Nov 20, 2007 12:34 pm
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