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Posted: Wed Feb 20, 2008 5:33 pm
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Posted: Thu Feb 21, 2008 9:51 am
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Kals is questing again!
I can really only speak to this anecdotally, but in my experience and based on the whining of my male friends, sex usually does complicate things because typically the girl gets the "I want you to marry me and give me babies and love me forever" syndrome, even if it's just secretly in the back of her head, and she starts sinking her claws into the guy, and the guy either runs screaming from the commitment or wants to tap that again... Sometimes the guy reaction occurs without the sinking-in-of-claws. I have only one friend with whom I have had sex and the relationship isn't either weird or nonexistent. That one guy I actually dated first, the sex was lousy, we had no chemistry, so we broke up and decided we make better friends. I went to his wedding this past summer, actually. Everyone else either wants into my pants again or has ******** off into the great unknown, which is fine with me because I get sick enough of the "we should go for coffee and catch up" conversation that ends in "no, your idea of coffee involves me giving you a BJ and I'm really not interested in sex right now" as it is.
Check sig for details!
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Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2008 10:54 pm
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Profitable Conversationalist
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Posted: Sun Feb 24, 2008 10:53 am
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Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 7:09 am
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Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 1:42 am
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Posted: Fri Mar 28, 2008 2:04 pm
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Posted: Mon Mar 31, 2008 7:30 pm
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Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 9:55 pm
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Posted: Sun May 04, 2008 8:37 am
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Posted: Mon May 05, 2008 4:15 pm
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Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 10:08 am
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Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 12:44 am
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Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 12:54 am
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Kals is questing again!
Hey, I didn't say it was impossible, I said it was highly improbable to have casual sex with a friend without changing the nature of the friendship. I too prefer to do it with a friend, but it does change things, at least a little. Especially if the sex was good. Even after the agreement is ended, there are these little moments where memories come, unbidden, or eyes meet at just the wrong time with just the wrong expression and hormones come raging in. It's lust, not love. Trouble is, so many people mistake lust for love so much of the time that they don't know how to distinguish between them.
The huge problems come when someone in the relationship (interaction with another human being is a relationship. This word does not refer to a significant other in this context) is either too immature to deal with those fleeting moments of lust afterwards or when one party has expectations and/or a hidden agenda. Like "Oh, I'll agree to just be ********, but once so-and-so makes mad passionate love to me, he or she will realise that we are meant to be together forever and have seven children and live happily ever after!"
Check sig for details!
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