hmm... should I have her committed?

[Goddess Ace]

Your mother might want to see a therapist or her doctor. She could very likely have a mental illness and medication may possibly help. I think committing her is rather drastic and would probably pull her over the edge.

I know this is a common diagonoses but it does seem like she is dealing with depression. I used to laugh things off that upsetted me.... she needs some sort of outlet.  

[Goddess Ace]

Knitterz

Goddess Ace

Your mother might want to see a therapist or her doctor. She could very likely have a mental illness and medication may possibly help. I think committing her is rather drastic and would probably pull her over the edge.

I know this is a common diagonoses but it does seem like she is dealing with depression. I used to laugh things off that upsetted me.... she needs some sort of outlet.

your probably right but I doubt she will ever get help.... she thinks therapists are useless and refuses to trust any.... I was thinking about having her committed because I dont know how else to get her help... I cant live with her like this because its just chaos but I dont feel safe leaving her alone. I have a lot of my own problems that need to be taken care of to but I spend a lot of time worrying about what is gana send her off the deep end next instead of trying to get myself help...

Well, if you really think that's the only way to get help for her maybe you should discuss it with some other family members first. You don't need to be obligated to take care of your mother and someone (family member, friend, co-worker) should be able to at least give you some insight on what to do.

You might want to look into your family history and see if there's any cases of mental illnesses. And if it's simply depression, she'd either take Prozac to hopefully control mood swings or find some sort of outlet. If she likes to do art then let her express her self on canvas and talk about it. Art therpay is a helpful practice.  

[Iconised Ghost]

i dont think its as easy as just having her committed. Im pretty sure that you cant have someone committed unless they are seriously mentally ill, are a danger to themselves, or a danger to others

Could it be a midlife crisis? Perhaps if you talk to her, just say that you've noticed she's been upset and acting differently, she might tell you that somethings wrong or really upsetting her, that you hadnt considered before. And then if she wants, maybe she can talk to a therapist or see her doctor. Having someone committed is a quite a drastic thing to do (we had a member of my family committed because she was a paranoid schizophrenic and thought people were trying to kill her, and was reporting everyone to the police for example)

She might not need medicating, maybe just someone to talk to. Of course she might not want to talk to anyone at all, not even family, and this is just her way of working through something  

[Iconised Ghost]

You could try and get her assessed and see if there is something going on mentally or if she's just reacting relatively normally to something like stress or a distressing life event. Im not sure how you would get her assessed though, you'd proobably have to start by talking to a social worker or psychologist  

[WastelandMama]

she has to have a gyno.

call the gyno and tell them you're worried her hormones are whacked out or something. then have THEM call HER and get her in for an appointment and then the doctor can say "you know, you seem a tad...frazzled...do you want some help with that?"

3nodding cause then its a REAL doctor telling her to get help and not some eeevil therapist. wink

also, you should have your dad try to talk to her before YOU do. parents rarely take things like "i think there's something wrong with you psychologically, mama" from their kids well. another adult saying it carries more weight and doesn't ******** up your parent/child relationship. 3nodding

in any case, GOOD LUCK! whee  

[Benjamaninja]

Ahh! rl problems! im scared of those xD in any case....id say...talk to your family about it, talk to your dad and see what he thinks.  

[churrlo]

Like I told ya before it might be a mid-life crisis of sorts x_X Take Ace's advice though with the therapist or psychologist or something  

[Krystalcat]

I understand your situation quite a bit. My aunt is paranoid schizophrenic (medically diagnosed) and refuses to take medication. She thinks the government and pharmacuetical companies are after her. So mental illness runs in my family.
My mom has had quite a few mental problems as well. One of them caused her to lose so much weight that she ended up in the hospital. They gave her some medicine to make her gain weight, which *just* so happened to be an anti-psychosis type drug. She's much better now, but the doctor hasn't let her stop taking the drug, despite my mother wanting off of it. My mother refuses to believe she was mentallly unbalanced.
I probably don't deal with it the best way. I get angry at her and stop talking to her. I don't live anywhere near her, and she's married to a relatively stable guy, so I don't have to worry about her day-to-day care. I think I haven't talked to her for about 2 weeks now. Prooobably should call her. Meh. stare  

[Metalic_Noodles]

I thought mental institutions were all closed and the inhabitants were made into hobos who can't funtion in society even if someone gives them all the help they need.

Casually/playfully tease her about some of these incedents, like when she leaves to shops, make a remark mentioning the 8 hour shoping trip, or when the dishes are piling up mention when she freaked out...

If she's depressed it will get worse, and if it's metal problems she just might realize that she's acting off. Now, since she's denied it so much, it's possible she'll try to hide her ackkowledgement of the problem. I do that, and it's for the stupidest s**t. If she does ask for help from a doctor you don't know and you find out, don't accuse or tease about knowing, just tell her you know and that you approve. Don't make it seem like she lost.

If you do this and it works, tell me, because this is based on what I know is likely the best way to deal with myself, mainly the second part, so if it works, it means I'm accually crazy and not just... off.

~Metalic_Noodles

 

[Iconised Ghost]

Krystalcat

I understand your situation quite a bit. My aunt is paranoid schizophrenic (medically diagnosed) and refuses to take medication. She thinks the government and pharmacuetical companies are after her. So mental illness runs in my family.

paranoid schizophrenia sucks balls emo  

[Artanus]

Maybe you can go to a free clinic, with or without your mom and get pills. And somehow get her to take them.