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Posted: Wed Apr 16, 2008 7:54 pm
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Posted: Thu Apr 17, 2008 8:05 am
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Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 6:14 pm
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personally, i dont think its possible 2 suddenly decide 2 stop loving some1. once ur in love, ur in love, u just dont suddenly decide 2 hate them just cuz something bad happened. even if u focus on all his bad points and hate him, deep down, way deep down, the feelings u have 4 him will never truly disappear, it'll just be a fake image u placed in front of u to fool urself 2 make u feel better (that is, if its actual love, and u dont just think ur in love). The best thing to do in a situation like this, is to move on. dont focus urself on hating him, cuz then ur still focused on him.
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Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 11:58 pm
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Saphire1579 personally, i dont think its possible 2 suddenly decide 2 stop loving some1. once ur in love, ur in love, u just dont suddenly decide 2 hate them just cuz something bad happened. even if u focus on all his bad points and hate him, deep down, way deep down, the feelings u have 4 him will never truly disappear, it'll just be a fake image u placed in front of u to fool urself 2 make u feel better (that is, if its actual love, and u dont just think ur in love). The best thing to do in a situation like this, is to move on. dont focus urself on hating him, cuz then ur still focused on him. It isn't about a deciding stuff, really not. It is about not being around somebody who doesn't respect you. Any way from my experince you don't stop love a guy cuz he is laying, but it does make you feel apart from him. I had a friend who i really love but can never belive one word she said. so when i talk to her it was like talking to a girl who is obssed with fantsy, and it was like playing role playing or something like that. I love role playing, but at the end when you really trying to be good friend to someone, you want to talk with him and not with fantsy. Realaty allways strong, and it is hard to be in realationship with someone who prefer the unreal verses the real.
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Posted: Sat Apr 26, 2008 8:20 am
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Posted: Sat Apr 26, 2008 11:29 pm
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Posted: Mon Apr 28, 2008 12:15 pm
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it seems, to me,
your primary problem is that you're emotionally attached and ar emsitaking that attachment for love
yo usee Love is being able to accept them for whom they are, no matter how the world sees them or you or the both of you
yet, in a realtionship to love, you must first Like
i am a christian, so thus i msut love every human being, but no, i dont have to like them, but yes i want to,
as for the girl(s) i'm debating in my mind whom i'd like more: i like and love them, but there are some girls, the one whom namely act ditzy or in-the-moment likethati show christian love to but dont like or emotionally attach to them
to break you emotional attachment requires so much more will than to create the attachments
the wa yo ubreak this 'shackle' is as simple as this: Forgive their criems against you, and forget they made the crime to you, since you're a girl, it may be harder yes, but it's the only effective way
you see both girls i'm in love with atm, i EARNED their favor to make them my friend first, then became emotionally attached did this boy earn your favor in any 'just-friends' way? if not then yes, he'll break up with you for unacceptable reasons
if, however a boy should basically be 'the girl's servant' then this following method would be the one to look for and is simply the best strategy a guy can use
the boy must try to earn the girl, and the girl should thus acknowledge his efforts, but assess the boy's actions before she accepts him, and she she feel he gave her enough loyalty for her heart, then she may give him her heart
some girls dont like guys doing this - i know that - but hoenstly it's a sign of integreity and devoution to that one person, a sort of ultimate flattery, but without the "creepy" parts held within flattery itself
i flatter a girl by being a gentleman - find what your heart seek in a guy, then when a guy wants to hook up with you - make you're hearts hugest priced deman and see if he rolls with it if not - then let him go
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Posted: Tue Apr 29, 2008 10:03 pm
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Aww Heck it seems, to me, your primary problem is that you're emotionally attached and ar emsitaking that attachment for love yo usee Love is being able to accept them for whom they are, no matter how the world sees them or you or the both of you yet, in a realtionship to love, you must first Like i am a christian, so thus i msut love every human being, but no, i dont have to like them, but yes i want to, as for the girl(s) i'm debating in my mind whom i'd like more: i like and love them, but there are some girls, the one whom namely act ditzy or in-the-moment likethati show christian love to but dont like or emotionally attach to them to break you emotional attachment requires so much more will than to create the attachments the wa yo ubreak this 'shackle' is as simple as this: Forgive their criems against you, and forget they made the crime to you, since you're a girl, it may be harder yes, but it's the only effective way you see both girls i'm in love with atm, i EARNED their favor to make them my friend first, then became emotionally attached did this boy earn your favor in any 'just-friends' way? if not then yes, he'll break up with you for unacceptable reasons if, however a boy should basically be 'the girl's servant' then this following method would be the one to look for and is simply the best strategy a guy can use the boy must try to earn the girl, and the girl should thus acknowledge his efforts, but assess the boy's actions before she accepts him, and she she feel he gave her enough loyalty for her heart, then she may give him her heart some girls dont like guys doing this - i know that - but hoenstly it's a sign of integreity and devoution to that one person, a sort of ultimate flattery, but without the "creepy" parts held within flattery itself i flatter a girl by being a gentleman - find what your heart seek in a guy, then when a guy wants to hook up with you - make you're hearts hugest priced deman and see if he rolls with it if not - then let him go What he says is absolutely right. I am a Christian myself. And yes, these facts are true.
Quote: Saphire1579 Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 6:14 pm personally, i dont think its possible 2 suddenly decide 2 stop loving some1. once ur in love, ur in love, u just dont suddenly decide 2 hate them just cuz something bad happened. even if u focus on all his bad points and hate him, deep down, way deep down, the feelings u have 4 him will never truly disappear, it'll just be a fake image u placed in front of u to fool urself 2 make u feel better (that is, if its actual love, and u dont just think ur in love). The best thing to do in a situation like this, is to move on. dont focus urself on hating him, cuz then ur still focused on him. What Saphire says is also true. You can never forget you loved someone. But also You cannot begin to mend wounds if you keep opening them right? You need to get the fact straight. He hurt you. Now it's his turn to hurt. And he Will hurt if he truly loves you. Regret is one of the worst pains in the world, seeing it deals a lot with the subject of "opportunities." He lost his "Opportunity" to share a bonding love with you. That's his loss. And that only means that there's someone a million times better for you.
And again, to what Heck had said, a man needs to Earn his woman. He needs to work for her. Sacrifice for her. Give his All to her. If this boy that broke your heart didn't do that, and doesn't do it now to try and GET you back, then he doesn't love you. Sorry to say it sweety. And mere love songs won't do the trick. If he's still in a relationship and sending you notes of love, and he says "I love you." You go right on and say "Bullsh*t" Cause if he loves you, he wouldn't be with that girl in the first place. He would've sucked it up, been a man, and told that girl he loves someone else, and he should be with you at this very moment.
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Posted: Sun May 04, 2008 8:28 pm
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Posted: Fri May 16, 2008 6:23 pm
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Posted: Tue May 20, 2008 11:47 pm
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Posted: Wed May 21, 2008 6:04 am
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 5:15 pm
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Im agree with Eidako...i had suffered also because of love...long story, so i will tell you just what i think...
true love is that, to wish for someone happiness instead of only yours,thats good, that proves how much you loved that person...but i must say something that i learned after thinking over it again,and again and again.
..Love is that...but two (TWO!) people have to feel that, if that person doesn't feel it, and dont have any respect of your feelings and looks like enjoy hurting you..or just trying to be your "friend" after betrayal...i must say that kind of persons arent the right ones for us.
We deserve soeone that can love us in that way...Love is a too deep word, but we need to know that a lot of persons just say them because "i felt i was in the mood" or because the "thought they had to" or because they thought it would be like in the movies ..thats wrong... This is reality...
.i think they feel like if they say that, that would make us happy and keep us quiet...that is wrong because it hurts others.. i still love him...but i have my pride, i worth someone that can value my feelings, i think i deserve it...i will care for him as a friend always but even if it hurts , even if he comes one day saying "i want t be with you" i will never accept him in that way...he had my feelings but he throw the away...i deserve a true love and a constructive relationship..and i will fight for it even if that means to loose him forever
hope this can help someone n_n
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 6:37 pm
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Posted: Mon May 26, 2008 11:29 am
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