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Posted: Mon Sep 06, 2010 9:12 am
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First I'd like to apologize that every topic I make in here is me complaining about something. I really am. I'm just terrible at topics unless something is upsetting me.
Alright as many of you are aware my Mom isn't the best mom in the world. Well you'll be not so happy to know that she's at it again.
See my brother Josh...isn't the best kid, he's gotten himself in a bit of trouble and he's very...aggressive about his feelings. And he's not happy with Mom. He's currently living with my dad, who's doing his best to whip my brother into shape but since he's working there's only so much he can do.
Now my mom is taking everything my brother is doing wrong and twisting it so she can paint my Dad out to be a horrible father. She has it put down, on paper, that my Dad is more or less and neglectful, abusive, alcoholic.
Now he's actually the complete opposite....well, aside from the drinking. He does drink...a lot. But he has NEVER gotten aggressive with us, he's always avoided drinking and driving, and he's never been caught drunk at work. So that, can easily be debunked because he doesn't have DUIs or anything like that.
However the abusive and neglectful is a little HARDER to disprove. Because Josh, as much as I love him he's a complete idiot sometimes, despite being warned that Mom would do this, has been acting up and just giving my mother ammunition to do this. And he's got to act on his best behavior...and he hasn't been doing too well.
Now we're going to confront my mother and try and convince her not to take this to court. (She's taking all this to court so she can get permission to take Johnathan and Josh to Georgia despite that the custody papers from before say that she cannot take them more than 100 miles away.) We're doing this on Thursday. If that doesn't work I'm most likely going to have to testify in court.
Now I ask you all for advice here..
-How do I cope with this? I keep choking up and trying to make myself not cry. -How do I explain to my mother that she'd be fighting her KIDS if she takes this to court? -How do I balance this with me trying to get myself on my own feet? -Is there anyway you all can think of where I can get the confidence and 'guts' to do this? -How do I keep myself from being angry and bitter with my mom when I go home? What about my Nana? She's just as much a 'villain' in this that my Mom is. I live with them it's bad enough as it is. -How do I get out these feelings so I don't snap at them and possibly get myself kicked out?
There's probably more questions that'll spring up but these are all I can think of.
EDIT: Things have calmed down but of course once I was honest about how I felt about my mother's husband she turned it around on me about how I'm not a adult because I'm having a difficult time finding a job in the worst possible state for this.
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Posted: Mon Sep 06, 2010 10:02 am
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Profitable Conversationalist
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Posted: Mon Sep 06, 2010 11:32 am
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It doesn't sound like the environment you're in is healthy, and if you can, I think you should leave.
I doubt it would be easy, but I think you would have a better time dealing with this if you could get away from the situation somewhat.
It's hard to see a situation clearly and objectively when you're embroiled in it and constantly worked up emotionally.
I agree completely with Thal's suggestion to chronicle what's going on in a journal. Dates, times, what happened, what provoked it, what was said, and how you reacted.... Hell, have a journal for just the facts, and another for the emotional stuff. If you have to go to court, I assume it'll help if you have the incidents and whatnot documented.
Been through the whole nasty-divorce and he-said-she-said stuff with both my parents and my uncle and his wife. :/ There really is no way to win when one person involved is lying and trying to paint the other person in a bad light.
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Posted: Mon Sep 06, 2010 2:28 pm
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Posted: Wed Sep 08, 2010 6:45 pm
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