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abortion has been a heavy debate for a long time now, and many feel strongly about whether it should be allowed or not. myself, i don't believe in killing a child cuz the child can always be giving to a family who does want it. but i also believe that under certain circumstances abortion should be allowed.

In a situation when a woman is raped and somehow becomes pregnant, should she be allowed to have an abortion since it was a traumatic experiance and it was concieved without her choice, or should she have to carry the child til birth then decide whether to keep it or give it up?

i have never heard of those stats before. do you think the women involved, beyond their religious beliefs, felt sorry for the baby being born under those conditions that they wanted to try and raise it under positive conditions? There have been situations i've seen where a weak willed person who was not at fault for what happened to them tries to take responsibility for it instead of the person who actually cuased the problem. maybe that's a reason, i don't know.

so your saying that if a junior high or high schooler got pregnent and had this trauma brought on to her life without her concent, it is god's will that she suffer at a young age with a baby of her own. confused

Speaking in the manner of which you do does not reflect any kinder on your point of view. You do not see how both sides can be cruel to each other, and yet the manner in which you speak to someone who is contemplating on this issue is in the exact fashion of which you do not like Pro-life speaking to Pro-choice or vise versa. It is understandable that you would feel passionately about such a widely debated subject, but perhaps you might want to consider how you are wording things.

As for the thoughts in a young woman's head after rape that would keep a child...it is hard to say. Then...there are other options available to young women who are pregnant...there is always adoption.

here is my take on it. I'm pro choice, and the *main* reason I am pro choice is because if a woman doesnt want to carry a child, she will find a way to get rid of it anyway. legally or not. and if it was made illegal, she would find more dangerous ways of getting it done. in past centuries women have died trying to abort and unwanted pregnancy. women have been known to do it themselves.. with coathangers! or find some sadistic idiot who says he'll do it for a small fee. If people are going to do it anyway... and they WILL if they're desperate enough, let them go to a place where it can be done safely.

It's largely an issue of individual ethics anyway, not social ethics. it IS the womans body after all, it would be on her conscious and no one elses business. just like many other issues that are hot debate topics in this day and age.

I have no objection to abortion from rape. I object in all other scenarios, because it meant the female willingly engaged in a sexual act without proper care or planning.


My opinion is that it would be her and her "boyfriend's" fault entirely. Either they should have had some self control, or they should have dealt with the possibility before hand (condoms, and any (or maybe many) other physical contraceptive(s)... a small portion of women are not affected by "the pill").

From that point, the female would have to raise the child along with the male. Maybe then they will learn responsibility and self control.

one can get pregnant while using protection. nothing gives 100% protection. my first husband was wearing a condom when I concieved my son. even the pill isnt completely fool proof. it happens even then.

and yes, those who seek abortion are admitting they lack the ability to raise a child... at least at THAT time in her life. but that doesnt go for always. people grow and change over time. honestly, if someone doesnt trust her own self in being a parent, why should anyone else trust her either?

this is a standard example of the idea that what is good for one person might be bad to another, as mentioned in another thread somewhere. honestly, who are we to judge? what someone else does with her body is none of my business anyway. it doesnt affect me.

besides... there are enough unwanted children in the world. I'd feel equally bad creating more.

First off, I want to say that I don't feel that abortion should be used as the "cure-all" solution for people who are stupid when it comes to sex. However, I AM pro-choice. I feel that since the fetus lies within the woman's body, she should have the choice of continuing pregnancy or not continuing it. There are people who make mistakes, and although the ultimate solution is to abstain from sex, there are some people who don't realize the brevity of their actions until ipso facto.

I also feel that if a mother is "forced" to have a child, she could end up being an abusive mother because she is either not ready, or resentful towards her child. I feel that "forcing" a woman to have the child is unfair (to both the child and mother) because the father is not forced to take care of the child since he is not the bearer of him/her. More often, we hear about fathers abandoning the mothers for some reason or another, and due to maternal instinct, it seems as though the mother has a harder time separating herself from the child in the eyes of the world. Yes, the children could be put up for adoption, but how would it feel to know, "Your mom didn't want to have you, but she was forced to, and so after you were born, she put you here."

Also, please keep in mind that the people who choose to have abortions aren't heartless. I've heard that some women become depressed and feel very upset after having abortions, but are forced to do it because of financial situations, as well as the current state of their lives. They don't just happily skip on their way to the clinic and say "I'll have one, please." Often, it is a tough decision that people have to make due to circumstance.

Those aren't my only arguments, and I know towards the end of my rant, my argument because a bit weaker, but I have so much to say, yet I don't want to say it all, and I also don't want to take the time to organize my thoughts.