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Posted: Mon May 18, 2009 1:19 pm
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Posted: Tue May 19, 2009 3:48 pm
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Posted: Wed May 20, 2009 12:41 am
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Posted: Fri May 22, 2009 3:57 pm
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Posted: Tue Jul 07, 2009 9:41 am
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Posted: Sun Jul 26, 2009 11:03 am
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takara kagami In today's society premarital sex is rather common. Though many still believe it immoral. I personally have chosen abstain, however I have never been in a serious relationship where the consideration of making that step has been evident. So I decided to discuss it with a few friends one day, and two of them told me that, unless I was willing to 'go all the way' then no man would ever consider dating me, as sexual intercourse is now important, and almost mandatory to sustain a healthy relationship. This confused me. I grew up in a general Christian way, so I have always thought premarital sex as immoral, however it is also apparent that so many accept premarital sex, and have performed it. It is even supported in the media. Thus a conflict has arisen in my mind. In all truth, is sex necessary to sustain a relationship, or is it best to wait until after marriage?
I'm going to guess that by sustaining a relationship you do mean a few years until marriage. Because the way you word it makes it sound like you could be in a relationship for 50+ years before marriage.
Sex is completely unnecessary for sustaining a relationship. Some people just do not like sex. However for those who do (which is the very large majority), it can be very difficult to stay in a sexless relationship.
If you plan on not getting married until you are 30, you should definitely stick to dating people in your religion. They usually have singles gathering. This way you can find someone like minded who will also abstain. But whichever religion you belong to is probably holding onto the ideas of the immorality of premarital sex that originated thousands of years ago. If you were to follow that tradition, you should already be married if you are a 14 year old girl or 18 year old boy. You would also not be in love, it would be arranged for you. However, today people do marry for love.
If you find someone you love, and they love you too, have sex with them before marriage. Hell, have sex with someone before you even love them, it's a good way to form a closer bond with someone and will let those fledgling emotions grow. Modern marriage is a ridiculous social obligation and government institution based on the religious ******** with of a social construction that started in Rome & Greece.
Humans can have many different kinds of relationships. Some of us mate for life. Some of use are serially monogamous. And some of us don't develop long-lasting ties at all.
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Posted: Sun Aug 16, 2009 9:48 pm
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It all depends on the culture and the religion of which you grew up in, and are influenced by, I think. I grew up in a family and a culture where pre-marital sex was considered taboo, and "awful"... But once moving to the Westernized world, people certainly saw these things differently, and had a more of an 'open-mind' to that idea.
But I see and know a lot of couples who are perfectly content (by appearances only, perhaps, who knows for sure ?) with a sexless relationship, because they truly love each other.
I for one, am one of those who believe sex really does HELP a relationship... So I am for it. A 'healthy' relationship is about fulfilling one's emotional needs, but also physical ones as well; and sex is a part of that. Some people can go without, but I'm a physically needy person... And so is my boyfriend; so we've already engaged in intercourse. And it didn't "help" our relationship become healthy... It only improved what was already good; like a "bonus". smile
And I think that's what it should be, for everyone. Sex shouldn't be the one factor that "up's" a relationship... It should only be an "optional" goodie to go along with it. (:
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