Boyfriend vs. College

[Zombie1429]

Maybe this is a bigger deal in the US, I imagine you can be much further apart than most couples who go to Uni here (Britain is just a bit smaller) but i've known plenty of relationships to survive the long periods apart.

If you really want college and know that its taking you on the career path thats right for you, then you should go regardless. If you're really serious about him then you should be able to make both of them work.  

[shiny dollar]

Disco_Bandit

Maybe this is a bigger deal in the US, I imagine you can be much further apart than most couples who go to Uni here (Britain is just a bit smaller) but i've known plenty of relationships to survive the long periods apart.

If you really want college and know that its taking you on the career path thats right for you, then you should go regardless. If you're really serious about him then you should be able to make both of them work.

Yup. Long distance relationships are doomed unless both parties are committed.  

[YukiOfTheMightnightHour]

Just to let you know I understand what you are going through... *sigh* I went through the same thing.

To start I was living with my boyfriend for 7 months, then decided I needed to get my act together and get more serious about school. So I made a huge choice and sacrifice, and moved back in with my parents to save as much money as I could so that I could go to the university I was transfering to. Believe me neither of us liked it, but I did what I had to do. Then shortly after I moved back in with my parents he decided he needed to get his butt in gear and thus applied to a tech school in North Carolina, ( I am in TX by the way), so in doing that he would end up being over 1500 miles away. Before he went we both tried to separate ourselves from the other and just be best friends, to make the separation easier. That didn't work, but we tried and so we figured that we both were committed to our relationship to be able to make in work over a distance. He has been up there since August......it has been very, very hard, but I trust him without any doubts. And like invisible-weirdo, we get to see each other maybe every 2 to 4 months, but we talk almost everyday. We both know that we have to do what we need to make sure we both can be happy and successful, and have a fulfilling future together.

In the end though it is your desicion, remember that.
3nodding  

[Chexley]

Holy cow; I need to update this sucker.

After that little blow up and stress knot I had, freaking out over the fact that if I went to college, I would never see Dean again, I decided to consider the Navy as my career choice.

I chuckle now because the enlistment period is four years and what's nice is that I can go whenever I want, unlike college, where, when you enroll, you're expected to come to class. The like the idea of the Navy because they let me choose what I want to be taught (because my scores are so high on the military's occupation test, I'll get to do just that), and then allow me to sustain money if I so choose to go to college after my enlistment period is up.

So, if I really want, I can get a job for a while, get myself on my feet and experience the world a little (and perhaps learn a little bit of responsibility). If I work up enough money, I can probably get a plane ticket to see Dean for a week or two (regardless if the poor boy's working or not).  

[aretoo]

Disco_Bandit

Maybe this is a bigger deal in the US, I imagine you can be much further apart than most couples who go to Uni here (Britain is just a bit smaller) but i've known plenty of relationships to survive the long periods apart.

If you really want college and know that its taking you on the career path thats right for you, then you should go regardless. If you're really serious about him then you should be able to make both of them work.

"A bit smaller"? lol I hate to break this to you, but your country is roughly the size (and a touch smaller) than the state I live in, Oregon! ^_^ Everything else is essentially true, though, excepting variations in individuals. 3nodding

And GO, CHEXIE! mrgreen  

[Zombie1429]

Size is'nt everything wink

The forces might be a good compromise, they have pretty good allowances for time off (i've got a couple of friends in the army and the navy here) and the money you earn will help you to pay for the travel.