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Abortion should never be done except in extreme cases. It has been known to damage the person for the rest of their lives, physically and mentally. Hundreds upon hundreds of calls for adoption go unanswered every year. If someone does not want a child (which is pretty sad in and of itself), there are definitely people out there to take care of him/her.

I believe that abortion should be an open option. I myself would NEVER have one, but if a woman is traumatized by a rape, or a molestation of some kind, I believe she should have the choice to abort, adopt, or keep the baby. I DON'T believe that abortion should be used as a form of birth control. Say a teenage girl and her boyfriend had sex, but for some reason the condom didn't work, and she became pregnant. In a case like that, I don't believe the girl should get an abortion. If she is really incapable of caring for the child, adoption is the best choice. There are many couples out there who are infertile, and would LOVE to have a newborn.

I dont believe in Abortion at all because I agree their are people out their that cant have kids and that want kids and would love the baby that a mom does not want them and their the adoption for any circumstances. People who would want to have kids would love to have the unwanted baby.

we can all have our opinions (personally, I'm pro-choice), we are all entitled to them. but I hate to appear to be judging people. be it a posative or negative judgement, it's simply not my place. who am I really to pronounce someone as evil because she prevented a fetus from growing inside her. that's her business. now, I could model my morals around what to do or what not to do in my own life based on her example and her circumstances and what I feel about it, but to TELL her she is wrong or evil or a murderer would be presumptious of me as tho I'm better than her because of this.

none of us are righteous, and it is vanity and pride that make us think we are so. didnt jesus even say 'let him without sin cast the first stone'? I may not be a christian, but I do think jesus was a wise and learned man. I think people in general need to get off their high horses and mind their own affairs and stop worrying what everyone else is doing.

abstinance is certainly the best policy for more than one reason. but when it comes to rape, I would totally understand the desire to abort. rape is a frightening experience. you feel threatened, invaded, and vulnerable. and I know if it was me, every time the child would kick would be a reminder of what happened. rape can totally mess a person up psychologically. being a parent can be very stressful even under the best of conditions, and it would be a very human reaction to start feeling resentment towards the child... if nothing else perhaps just for having to have your freedom ripped out from under you and life changed forever all because of this rapist, when maybe you hadnt even planned on having kids at all. when you have a child, your whole life changes. things you once did and enjoyed you cant do anymore. yeah, I can see it... hating the rapist-father and resenting the resultant child. every time the child cried in the middle of the night, the very sight of the child might remind the woman of that traumatic experience. heh..what if the child had the rapists eyes?

now, I'm not saying it would be right to resent the child. the circumstances of it's birth are not its fault. but emotions arent logical. no one is perfect, and people feel what they feel, be it right or wrong... it's not a choice.

ok, first of all YOU need not make this a personal issue. I can tell you are young. second of all, what I explained in that text is the simple fact that people are fallible and you cant blame them for feeling certain feelings. YES it is a selfish attitude, but *as I said* people will feel what they feel. it's a simple fact.

I'm not arguing your points. if you payed attention, you would see that. tho what you're talking about is easier said than done. if they're strong enough emotions tend to rule people, even to the point of being irrational.

and I dont appreciate this being made personal.. amusing tho it is. you seem to be pointing a finger at ME as tho *I* was this hypothetical rape victim intent on having an abortion. lol funny tho... seeing as you allowed this conversation to bother you to the point of making it personal, you are actually a great example of what I said about emotions tending to rule people.

nevertheless....if you cant keep it from turning personal you should not be debating in a forum at all.