Will you teach your kids about sex?

[The Dinosaur Next Door]

Open marriages are happy marriages. biggrin  

[Chexley]

Oh, I know~ I'm one of those people that if I'm going to be cheated on, I would like to know that they have something more than I do. If it happens to be a friend, the hey~ Kudos to him because he knows how to pick chicks (a lot of my friends happen to be very good looking for some reason).  

[The Dinosaur Next Door]

xd Mine too. Plus, most of my friends are really adventurous, so I'd be like, "That sounds like so much fun!"  

[Spokane Native 2609]

Chexednut

I happened to walk into my mother's office yesterday and saw a replay of Oprah and how she and her crew were discussing how far should parents go when it comes to teaching their children about sex and feeling good.

Well, there was a follow up this morning where the majority of the audience said that it's a lot easier to have it brought indirectly so they can ease into it. One of the women on the panel had her six-year-old daughter walk in on her and her husband making love. She said her husband was tickling her while her husband explained they were having sex.

I'm curious as to how my beloved ATG would react to that: if their child (currently or hypothetical) wanted to know about sex and what parts of the body control it, etc.

I, myself, never had the sit down with my parents. I'm sure I will here soon, but that's not the point. xd I learned sex through romance novels and health class. After a while, having grown a bit older and curious about pornography, I would watch the Playboy channel every now and again. Everything I want to know, I have to look up on the computer because my parents are uncomfortable telling me about these things (at least, that's what I'm assuming).

So, I want to know what you guys have to say about this. You can go off onto tangents, I don't mind. Just have fun with this; don't get too serious~

I watched that one too...my first oprah show but yes I would inform my children about sex when they turn at least 11...people where I'm from get pregnaut at an early age..say 13 14 maybe...its very common out here. I got three friends right now who are pregnaut and they are all younger then me. I am 18. I think that younger people who are matured should know about sex and the consequences for being unprotected. that's my opinion tho >.<  

[YukiOfTheMightnightHour]

Around the age of 12 when I started the wonderful( burning_eyes ) cycle of the month, mum sat me down and brought out the picture dictionary, and that is how I learned about the organs and what went were and who had what. Then saw that video thing is school and everytime the talked about STD's it scared the crap out of me to the point that I did not have sex for 18 years! Almost no one believes me, but I was to scared to do anything since I was deathly scared of getting sick, or contracting a disease. And then I met my current boyfriend, who I intend to marry and spend my life with and I gave it to him, lucky b*****d. 4laugh  

[Chexley]

Yuki: I officially love you.  

[Helia]

I'll definitely explain things to my kids. I'll never forget my friends laughing at me in middle school because I didn't know what an erection was. (only I thought they said "eruption") I wouldn't want my kids to get a skewed perspective on sex because they didn't know the basics before they started hearing all the gossip about it from their peers. I honestly don't think it will be embarrassing to talk about at all though. It's facts and science. There's no need to giggle about it.  

[The Dinosaur Next Door]

Helia

.... facts and science. There's no need to giggle about it.

You did it! This time it's your fault I've started singing it!  

[^^Psycha^^]

Well I dont think I will teach theam about that, I cant imagine myself doing that, partly because its so awkard to say it and I dont plan to have children, well I dont even plan to be married thats why

 

[Bassios]

If I do have kids (which is a pretty big if), then as soon as they hit 10, they're getting the full blown "This is how everything works" talk.

The one I never got. emo

xd

 

[TurtIe Tracks]

My parents also never talked about it with me. I never really thought about it, so I never asked or anything. Then in school we learned about how babies are made biologically. I also read a lot of books (which my parents didn't know were NOT for elementary school kids... luckily I wasn't retarded so I had the ability to read it without asking for help) and then read a lot of manga on the internet. When people in school talked about things I didn't know about I just figured I'd learn about it eventually. (which I did... health class) And I'm not social at all so I was never on the spot.

I assume I would be like my parents with my kids and not talk about it. They can figure it out. razz  

[not a templar]

I ( I don't remember how, but) learned about sex myself. I'd just hand my kid a dictonary and spell the word for 'em.  

[LishaKitty]

*sighs* Okay....
yie...


Here's something for all to think about, most of the reasonings of why people, parents in particular don't talk to their kids about sex is due to the fact that for most part it is not a comfortable subject for them to talk about.

Take in consideration that adults had gone through their own period of time not fully knowing themselves and their own parents hadn't told them about sex. Hadn't explained fully, hadn't clarified it, hadn't been even remotely comfortable with even the word sex. Most women got told pretty much at their wedding day by their mothers "Hon this is what you do as your duty to your husband so that you can have the honor of having his children. Just bear with it." The guys sort of learned from word of mouth and not from Dad either. Even that wasn't fully detailed out to the guys so that got embaressed by having to erupt sooner then expected. (Take in consideration this was roughly about 100 years ago, give or take.)

And let's not talk about how much wasn't talked about STDs...Those had some "nifty old fashioned cures."

Pardon me for showing me old farting age there. It's amazing what happens when you read all kinds of books.

Today's day in age where schools are doing mroe of the teachings about it still doesn't exactly cover all of what goes on. From all what my parents taught me, I find myself knowing more then my last sexual education class in high school.

Take in consideration the 1950s sex was still pretty taboo at the time. The 1960s with sexual revoltion and such still didn't exactly free up knowledge about sex. The only reason why there is a sexual education at all is due to the fact that more kids are libal to get STDs and pregnant. Parents are still not exactly comfortable with the subject. I've even seen a few down right blush. *grins*

Bah, wasn't trying to lecture or give a long winded speech. It's just observations made over the years between my father and I. Do what feels comfortably best for you. (Even if you do end up blushing.) I just wanted to share a tad bit of history in explaining why older folks have huge issues about teaching the younger generation about sex.

Pardon the horrid spelling in spots. Mind warped ahead of the fingers at times.  

[Serious Erius]

I don't have to tell them...
I got this to explain everything.
old, but so good, haha  

[SilentShadowDreamer]

Well, I certainly won't teach my kids the way I was taught.

Which is to say: not at all. My dad believes I am sexless. My mom is 'don't ask, don't tell'. I learned everything I know through a sort of osmosis - and still managed to understand sex and all of its components (including bad stuff like rape, incest, etc.) by the time I was nine. Then came the age of ten, the year of 'The Miracle of Life', which scarred me forever and is the reason I am now afraid of having children.

I wish I'd had a mom like Andrea's. She tells me that her mom actually sat down on the floor with her, did the splits, and gave her the full biology lesson using herself as an example.

While I probably wouldn't go that far with my kids, if I ever have any, I'll be sitting them down and explaining all about sex as soon as they're old enough to be hearing about it in school. If I could wrap my mind around it by nine or ten, then by God so can they.