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Posted: Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:12 pm
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Posted: Sun Dec 14, 2008 3:54 pm
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Posted: Sun Dec 14, 2008 4:26 pm
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Wellll... what a big ol' can of worms...
@Thal: Weddings are one of those rite-of-passage things, I think, and people like to make it an "event", much like many do for graduations, or milestone birthdays, or anniversaries (of weddings. or otherwise); people, as a general rule, aren't necessarily sensible about such things. smile
As for weddings... as a gay guy, I kinda come at it from a slightly different angle. I've beginning to believe that "wedding" should be reserved for religious ceremonies, and civil ceremonies for the legal niceties. I believe that it's a nice sign of commitment for a couple, and would perhaps, if the right person is there, like to do it myself one of these days. *shrug* For what it's worth. smile
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Posted: Sun Dec 14, 2008 4:49 pm
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I think a lot of people just like the actual wedding ceremony because it's excuse to gather all your friends and family at the same place and all celebrate together, not to mention gather gifts and money to help better sustain the couple. Some people will put more emphasize on the wedding than others, just like some people will put more importance on marriage than others. I've know people, both men and women, who just really like the thought of being married and place that as an important life goal. I don't think that's a bad thing, just like I don't think it's a bad thing if someone doesn't desire to ever get married. I, myself, would rather just take things as they come. If one day I get married, I'm sure I'll be happy. If I never get married, I'm okay with that too. I can't ever imagine a big wedding though. Not so much because of spending, but just because I don't like being the center of attention... sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Dec 14, 2008 5:03 pm
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aretoo @Thal: Weddings are one of those rite-of-passage things, I think, and people like to make it an "event", much like many do for graduations, or milestone birthdays, or anniversaries (of weddings. or otherwise); people, as a general rule, aren't necessarily sensible about such things. smile
Rite-of-passage or historical property exchange, it just depends on how far back you want to go in the history of marriage and weddings. My understanding is that, aside from the religious aspect, weddings and marriage were a way of gaining property, money, social status. Historically, such unions often had little to do with love. This is why I don't particularly feel a need to partake in such a rite-of-passage for myself. At least a large part of the historical aspect is lost on those partaking in nuptials these days. Unions based on love are better than the unions based on property gain.
People can have their celebrations as they want, and that includes how much they choose to spend on them. I just would see it as a waste of money if I were to do the same, so I choose to be more sensible. I never cared for extravagance anyway. wink
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Posted: Sun Dec 14, 2008 8:14 pm
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Thaliat Everwood aretoo @Thal: Weddings are one of those rite-of-passage things, I think, and people like to make it an "event", much like many do for graduations, or milestone birthdays, or anniversaries (of weddings. or otherwise); people, as a general rule, aren't necessarily sensible about such things. smile Rite-of-passage or historical property exchange, it just depends on how far back you want to go in the history of marriage and weddings. My understanding is that, aside from the religious aspect, weddings and marriage were a way of gaining property, money, social status. Historically, such unions often had little to do with love. This is why I don't particularly feel a need to partake in such a rite-of-passage for myself. At least a large part of the historical aspect is lost on those partaking in nuptials these days. Unions based on love are better than the unions based on property gain. People can have their celebrations as they want, and that includes how much they choose to spend on them. I just would see it as a waste of money if I were to do the same, so I choose to be more sensible. I never cared for extravagance anyway. wink interesting point of view ,never thought about it that way though i should know about that aspect of social life from classics..
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Posted: Sun Dec 14, 2008 8:26 pm
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aretoo Wellll... what a big ol' can of worms... @Thal: Weddings are one of those rite-of-passage things, I think, and people like to make it an "event", much like many do for graduations, or milestone birthdays, or anniversaries (of weddings. or otherwise); people, as a general rule, aren't necessarily sensible about such things. smile As for weddings... as a gay guy, I kinda come at it from a slightly different angle. I've beginning to believe that "wedding" should be reserved for religious ceremonies, and civil ceremonies for the legal niceties. I believe that it's a nice sign of commitment for a couple, and would perhaps, if the right person is there, like to do it myself one of these days. *shrug* For what it's worth. smile commitment is the point my friend tried to argue. since iv never been a romantic or had any fantastical ideas about marriage. and now have a bf who seems to be very commited to me.. my friend said getting married/marriage is the symbol of commitment.
not trying to sound to negative about it but maybe i am more naive than i think, that being independant means being free and taking care of myself. being legally commited to someone to me feels like taking away abit of that freedom.. im an open type of person where i wouldn't mind the idea of having more than one boyfriend but im also aware that having a boyfriend who might have different ideas.. but in marriage that seems bad..? [im meaning in case of consenting both open relationship not selfishness]..
edit: re-read that and i didnt realise i got to get somethings sorted.. xp
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Posted: Sun Dec 14, 2008 8:39 pm
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Posted: Mon Dec 15, 2008 6:54 am
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Posted: Mon Dec 15, 2008 11:43 am
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Posted: Mon Dec 15, 2008 11:45 am
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Posted: Tue Dec 16, 2008 1:57 pm
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