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 Posted: Wed Mar 21, 2007 8:39 pm
rlimbaugheib The rule is: The guy can be up to three years older and the girl can be up to one year older. not entirely agreeing with this. For guys: more than 3 year difference I'd say more like 7-8, b/c at some point in both of the people's lifes they have similar maturity levels. For girls: I'd say 2-3, but yeah it's kinda weird...... The main thing is your maturity level. To the preson who started this: Not to be rude or anything, and it's your life, not mine. But that's a HUGE age difference, I mean that's to the point of questioning whether the person is looking for money and inheritence instead of love. Then again I don't know you or the love of your life, so I could be mistaken.... and if the relationship is what you say it is, then I proably am.
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Posted: Thu Mar 22, 2007 11:44 am
rlimbaugheib The rule is: The guy can be up to three years older and the girl can be up to one year older. ? And who are you to set rules? I honestly doubt you wrote some great all-knowing book on relationships. You could say " My opinion is... ", but certainly not rule.
I agree with the maturity thing though, that's usually why in younger years, girls date boys older than them. At least around here. I'm 15, my boyfriend is 18. *shrugs* Met at 14 and 17.
Age merely is a number in my opinion, we don't choose who we fall in love with.
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Posted: Tue Mar 27, 2007 11:34 am
[Bill the Cat] I'm 52, and my Love of my Life is 19. All you kiddies who think there's something wrong with that, hey, GET OVER IT! If you're old enough to make choices like that, who's to say that your choices are somehow "bad" or "wrong"? You don't generally get to pick who you're gonna fall in love with. I didn't, and I know that she didn't either. You get talking with someone, and something clicks inside, and you realize that you've just been talking to someone you want to be around, period. That's it! Doesn't matter who it is, doesn't matter how old. If it works, it works. WHY NOT?? xd heart heart heart heart heart Ummm what happens when you die from a heart attack in a decade and she's all alone. (Just making up a scenario but you'll still die way before she does unless she dies from an unnatural cause.)
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Posted: Tue Mar 27, 2007 11:36 am
Ms._Fashion_Victim_2006 rlimbaugheib The rule is: The guy can be up to three years older and the girl can be up to one year older. not entirely agreeing with this. For guys: more than 3 year difference I'd say more like 7-8, b/c at some point in both of the people's lifes they have similar maturity levels. For girls: I'd say 2-3, but yeah it's kinda weird...... The main thing is your maturity level. To the preson who started this: Not to be rude or anything, and it's your life, not mine. But that's a HUGE age difference, I mean that's to the point of questioning whether the person is looking for money and inheritence instead of love. Then again I don't know you or the love of your life, so I could be mistaken.... and if the relationship is what you say it is, then I proably am. I'd say a 5-7 year difference is fine, but after that......ummmmm.........yeah.
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Posted: Wed Mar 28, 2007 10:45 pm
I can understand 5,10, hell maybe even 15 years diffrence.
But cmon, 52-19 = 37!?
You've been alive for 37 years by the time she was BORN!
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Posted: Thu Mar 29, 2007 5:08 am
Pshh... Oh please... Where I live, it's common to see 60-year old guys with 20-something girls, so it's nothing new to me.
My dad's friend is in his 60s and is happily married to a 29-year old.
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Posted: Thu Mar 29, 2007 8:12 pm
My personal issue with it is because of maturity differences. Mostly. Age is just a number, yeah, but it represents roughly how mature you are. People agree that -with few exceptions- an eighteen year old is more mature than a fourteen year old. And it's that maturity difference which I find unsettling.
For me, most relationships more than ten years apart are a no. ESPECIALLY if the younger participant's less than 20. You do a shitload of growing up when you're a teenager - the maturity differences between a 14- and 18-year old are nothing like those between an 18- and a 22-year old.
Yes, some relationships do work, and yes, some people are way more mature than the generic X-year old, but I'm still not happy with anything above ten years, unless there are exceptional circumstances. Even then - case by case basis.
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Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2007 9:10 am
Interesting question. I wonder how the replies would be different if you were a 50+ female and your spouse a 19 year old male. In any case, I think love comes in many configurations. While you may have experience - and likely maturity/sense of self - she may have a freshness of perspective and enthusiasm.
However, the tricky thing is...most people's personalities and sense of self change a great deal up through their early twenties. There's lots of long-term issues to consider. I had a friend who married a guy 20 years her senior. She initially agreed on no children, but later came to regret it and he still isn't budging. In the flush of youth and infatuation people often agree to compromises that they find untenable years later.
So, I don't think its necessarily wrong. I just think that the issues to be considered are of a very different sort than when people are of relatively the same age.
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