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Posted: Sat Jan 20, 2007 3:04 am
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This is going to sound a little pathetic.
Two of my close friends have recently began liking each other a lot and are planning on dating very soon. I'm happy for them, however, I'm afraid that I'll be left out more, before we were all very close, and then they continued becoming closer and I was like... forgotten.... I always felt on the outside and now I'll be even further outside. Another thing that bothers me with them going out, is that if it ends badly, then they wont be talking to each other anymore, and then I'll get stuck in the middle. ((It happened before with the same guy but another girl, they broke up badly and if I was caught talking to one, the other got jealous, so I just gave up.)
Anywayz, should I just be happy for them, and pretend like nothing is bothering me, or should I tell them how I am feeling.
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Posted: Sat Jan 20, 2007 1:45 pm
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pretending is never good. u really shouldn't hide things, but don't attempt to make them stop dating, either. and to avoid the whole "being stuck in the middle" issue, u should make it crystal clear to them that if something were to happen, they CANNOT! get mad at u for sumthing they did and it involves them. if u have plans with one, and the other asks u to do sumthin, u do whatever was decided FIRST. and make plans for another day with the other. u can't let them do that, getting u in the middle, bcs of sumthin that happend between them, and they cannot use u to get the other jelous [that's what it seems like when they "play tug o' war'' with u as the rope]. as for being left out, tell them. if they are trully ur friends, they shouldn't make a big deal out of this. it's just a feeling, and if they really care about u, they should try sumthin to fix it. BUT DON'T TELL AND/OR SUGGEST THAT THEY SHOULDN'T DATE!!! that'll turn them against u, i think.
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Posted: Sat Jan 20, 2007 7:24 pm
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Posted: Sun Jan 21, 2007 2:40 pm
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