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My first topic in this guild |
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 12:05 pm
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 12:10 pm
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 1:31 pm
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 1:48 pm
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 1:51 pm
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 3:09 pm
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Posted: Sat May 24, 2008 11:11 am
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Posted: Sat May 24, 2008 11:22 am
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angel was in iraq for the first year of the war.
he initially was supposed to be over there for three weeks, then it became 6 weeks, then three months, then 6 months, then a year, then 9 months, then back to a year.
rule number one: don't believe a damn thing the military tells you about timetables. they're lying. stressed
rule number two: be cheerful whenever you get to talk to him, even if you sob for hours afterwards.
rule number three: stay busy!!! the first few weeks angel was gone, i was GLUED to the tv watching cnn. i didn't shower, didn't hardly eat, didn't sleep. it was horrible and gut-wrenching and above all, stupid. sweatdrop angel didn't want me pooling in a puddle of misery and nerves on the floor. he wanted me to carry on as best i could until he came home!
rule number four: realize he will be different when he comes home and be prepared for the awkwardness. sweatdrop a lot of wives, when confronted with their "new" husbands, cut and run. give him at least a year of retardedness before making any major decisions. 3nodding cause lord knows angel was a basket-case for a long, long time.
rule number five: DO NOT ATTEMPT TO WAKE HIM WHEN HE COMES HOME AND HAS NIGHT TERRORS. sweatdrop yeah, learned that one the hard way and now my jaw pops all weird when i chew my food thanks to a haymaker angel slammed me with while in the throes of a night terror. sweatdrop
and, to anyone who says "its part of the job", please to be shutting the ******** up. its not helpful. stare
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Posted: Sat May 24, 2008 2:12 pm
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Posted: Sat May 24, 2008 3:55 pm
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Posted: Sat May 24, 2008 4:12 pm
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Posted: Sat May 24, 2008 4:24 pm
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Posted: Sat May 24, 2008 4:44 pm
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Not a problem. ^^ I was actually considering not posting in this topic, because of jfm's post, but I thought I'd post and avoid saying anything about it, but it seems to be a more common phrase than I'd anticipated.
I've never experienced anything like this, and hopefully, I never will, but I can understand the worry and the sadness that one has when someone goes to a potentially dangerous place; negativity takes over, and to snap them out of it, they need to hear the positives. That phrase is worse than a negative, because it shows what you said; irritation because of the worry said person is going through. Likely spiralling them into an even deeper worry, or even depression, because no one cares. Those someone talks to about these things is out of need for comfort; their mentality depends on it.
..and sorry to say, but your family don't really sound like the best of people for comfort, do they? Not that I can say much better for mine.. after my nan passed on, one of my Uncles took over everything; even the role of Next of Kin, which was actually supposed to be my other Uncle. On top of that, my Aunt sided with him, took control of the Cremation service, put stuff into it almost only about their own children, (not making mention about my being the first in the family to get into Uni, which my Nan openly said she was very very proud of) and even went against her wishes of being cremated and having her ashes scattered, and just buried her ashes in a convenient place for themselves to visit. */venting*
So really, I'm talking from experience, about uncaring family members, at least. XD;
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Posted: Sat May 24, 2008 5:25 pm
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bluegrass cat Kitsukage I concur with cat; though it might be part of the job, they already know that, but they're still entitled to worry about them. The job after they have gone; be it into a shoot-out as a police officer, a burning building as a firefighter, or a dogfight as a fighter pilot, is to comfort them while they're gone. "Its part of the job" is very counter-productive. almost heartless. yes, thank you! exactly what i was trying to say! heart and i'm not talking hypothetically it might annoy them, i'm speaking from experience where the idiot-side of my family all tried to say that and i wanted to kick their asses for it. because when you say "its part of the job" what the person hears is "stop whining, you knew this was going to happen!" its ******** up and just rude, yo. stare who said i wasn't a rude person? if being horridly blunt counts as rude, then, i guess im in that category.
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Posted: Sat May 24, 2008 6:42 pm
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