Food Conundrum

[Sentama Lin]

I have a conundrum regarding my mother's irresponsibility (I've mentioned this many times before). My mom said she would buy groceries for the family today after she gets her paycheck but, once again, she hasn't fallen on her word. I've checked the kitchen and there really isn't any food at all. Like, no food.

One option I have is I do have my current earnings for my grocery budget next month (I don't work next month and I was planning to use the entire month to work on my design portfolio and search for jobs) and I have my emergency savings (currently about 100 USD since I just fixed up the fiasco that my mom did to my accounts). I could easily buy food for the family, though probably for only about a week before it severely hurts my grocery budget for the entire month of January.

However, if I purchase food, my mother will know that I have money and will do everything to get me to pay for anything else and I can't do that; I can't afford to pay for anything else, and I'd like to keep savings intact (because that's what savings are for). My psychologist would tell me to do what I need to do first before helping out my immediate family, but it's still a conundrum.  

[Sanzoskitsune]

Honestly I think you need to worry about yourself first. Your mom will HAVE to eventually buy groceries if she wants to eat herself. All you'll do by buying the groceries yourself is give your mom a crutch so she doesn't have to spend the money herself. I really do think that buying those groceries will only cause you more problems.  

[Sentama Lin]

I know that's what I need to do, but the thought of essentially having my aunt and my sisters, who haven't done anything, potentially have no food is a really bad thought.  

[Sanzoskitsune]

Yeah but they can always bug your mom about it constantly until she gets off her a**. They can't always depend on you either to pick up the slack when your mom doesn't.  

[Sentama Lin]

Yeah, I know, and I know that they understand that (because they told me themselves). It's still an uncomfortable feeling regardless.  

[Sanzoskitsune]

I understand Lin, but you've gotta take care of yourself. I'm sure your sisters and aunt would want you to make sure you're taken care of and not left without food cause you were helping them.  

[Sentama Lin]

Alrighty... I guess I'll just have fun here then, as odd-feeling as it is, it's better than other ideas.  

[Sanzoskitsune]

Yes, yes it is *clings* And we want our Lin to be well taken care of and have plenty of food.  

[Serious Erius]

feed yourself for a few days by eating outwards, then she either has to do the same, or buythose groceries..no?  

[Sentama Lin]

Hah...! Unfortunately my budget doesn't have an eating-out group; I haven't planned for going out to eat because I usually keep that in my small Entertainment/Luxury group. XP  

[Sentama Lin]

Ah, but you see, I don't really live with them at the moment; I'm visiting for the holidays so I don't really have a room to hide good food from. Not to mention I'd feel totally asinine eating well (to my standards) while mom makes everyone else suffer.  

[Alarias]

Maybe you could try to be sneaky...if there is some sort of food you love but that your mom hates...you could buy that ...and only that? Then people can eat..you wont feel bad and your mom will eventually get off her a**, right?  

[Kalstolyn]

Kals is questing again!

Honestly Lin, your mom has a problem and needs help. You wouldn't be helping her any if you keep enabling her irresponsible behaviour. Sometimes tough love is necessary.

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[Sentama Lin]

I've already decided not to give in. But I do worry about my sisters though. I'm hoping my mom won't be so dense as to actually not provide any kind of nourishment at all.