Below is a letter that I wrote to a family member. Please tell me if it's too strong:
Letter to Relatives
I've talked with some people that I needed to talk to, and we agreed that this is the path that I need to take. My mom won't realised what she has done to everyone -- what she has done to me -- unless I do something drastic, because what she has done to me is most drastic.
I'm going to go see a lawyer or get some legal advice, and I am going to make everything that my mother has done to me financially known, and figure out what all my legal options are. I am not afraid to do this; my mother has hurt me and betrayed me enough to make me not care. I will get all my money back from her, and make her understand what she did was wrong, and make sure that accommodations are made to repair all the damages she's done to me financially, emotionally, and mentally.
What I also want to do is to get ALL of the family to talk to her. I'm tired of everyone saying in the family that they have no business to interfere; as much as I hate to say it, everyone who has known about the problem and has done nothing about it is also to blame. I want to invite everyone here to Minnesota and get her to talk to everyone, and I want to tell her exactly what she has done, and I want her to realise that everything she's been doing to me, and my sisters, and everybody here, is wrong and that she has not been acting like a
mother. I don't care if my dad doesn't want this; I don't care if everyone disagrees that the extended family doesn't need to get involved. THIS PROBLEM HAS AFFECTED EVERYONE! WE ALL NEED TO TELL HER EXACTLY WHAT SHE HAS BEEN DOING!
All I want is to invite you and Tita Janet and Tita Judith and everyone who is concerned about me and Rachel and Katie to meet up in Minnesota when my dad arrives and just tell my mom. It needs to happen. It's never going to be fixed unless it is told. If I don't get
some accommodation for getting my life back in normal -- because I spent more than a year having to deal with this, which led to me having to put my life and my dreams on hold -- I will pursue all legal action that I can. I have friends and people who care about me. I will make this public. And I will not be afraid to make this known.
This is my request, and also my ultimatum. I hope you all understand and are willing to help me, because I am tired of having to put my life on hold. I am tired of feeling like it was my fault that I am in debt. I am tired of feeling so much mental stress from everything that has happened. I am tired of mother saying that nothing will change even if my dad comes back. I am tired of being told I am selfish and don't care about anybody but myself, because that's all my mom has been doing. I am tired of no other family doing anything and being silent. I've lost all my trust for my mom, and I'd rather not lose my trust in anybody else. You know I love you all, but if nobody was willing to do anything, I'm sorry, but I will take action.
I apologise again at the anger of this letter. But my plan has been told. I will do this. I have people.
I'm going to go see a lawyer or get some legal advice, and I am going to make everything that my mother has done to me financially known, and figure out what all my legal options are. I am not afraid to do this; my mother has hurt me and betrayed me enough to make me not care. I will get all my money back from her, and make her understand what she did was wrong, and make sure that accommodations are made to repair all the damages she's done to me financially, emotionally, and mentally.
What I also want to do is to get ALL of the family to talk to her. I'm tired of everyone saying in the family that they have no business to interfere; as much as I hate to say it, everyone who has known about the problem and has done nothing about it is also to blame. I want to invite everyone here to Minnesota and get her to talk to everyone, and I want to tell her exactly what she has done, and I want her to realise that everything she's been doing to me, and my sisters, and everybody here, is wrong and that she has not been acting like a
mother. I don't care if my dad doesn't want this; I don't care if everyone disagrees that the extended family doesn't need to get involved. THIS PROBLEM HAS AFFECTED EVERYONE! WE ALL NEED TO TELL HER EXACTLY WHAT SHE HAS BEEN DOING!
All I want is to invite you and Tita Janet and Tita Judith and everyone who is concerned about me and Rachel and Katie to meet up in Minnesota when my dad arrives and just tell my mom. It needs to happen. It's never going to be fixed unless it is told. If I don't get
some accommodation for getting my life back in normal -- because I spent more than a year having to deal with this, which led to me having to put my life and my dreams on hold -- I will pursue all legal action that I can. I have friends and people who care about me. I will make this public. And I will not be afraid to make this known.
This is my request, and also my ultimatum. I hope you all understand and are willing to help me, because I am tired of having to put my life on hold. I am tired of feeling like it was my fault that I am in debt. I am tired of feeling so much mental stress from everything that has happened. I am tired of mother saying that nothing will change even if my dad comes back. I am tired of being told I am selfish and don't care about anybody but myself, because that's all my mom has been doing. I am tired of no other family doing anything and being silent. I've lost all my trust for my mom, and I'd rather not lose my trust in anybody else. You know I love you all, but if nobody was willing to do anything, I'm sorry, but I will take action.
I apologise again at the anger of this letter. But my plan has been told. I will do this. I have people.