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Hm, i have been thinking later, maybe too much, but sue me razz . I have been mainly thinking about which rules our relationship sides. We all understand what lust is and can understand it comes down to our animal insticts but love... that on the other hand is baffling. Some say the heart rules love but others say that is is the mind. These are too good reasonings but people also believe our souls rule that side of things...

But how can we be sure we have a soul? our heart is a organ pumping the blood around our body keep our life going. The mind sends the messages causing the heart to be able to work as well as the other organs, these are two things we need to work together to survive. So where does the soul come into it. Is that who we are or is that merely a personality we have built on by using our minds and learning new things throughout life?

Then we have to think about love, if we think rationally the heart and mind are merely organs so therefore cannot have a play in what "love" is. The soul could be merely something we have built internally throughout our lives so could that count as a possibility?

If we are to think rationally this way there is some things which kinda baffle me and have got me thinking "wtf"

For instance has anyone, a female particular had a bad fight with there partner and then experience real pain in there heart? that is said to be the pain of losing a loved one but at the same time it could just be the shock. but this is what confuses me when a love leaves or a loved one passes away we are met by a increase in pain which can give the impression that it is because love comes from the heart or is the brain passes messages to experience pain OR is it the soul

interesting and confusing all at the same time..

Discuss

what love is
does love control the heart, mind or soul
or is it something which we build through our lives
and is the pain we feel something we fabricate

thats what my whole area of study is all about mrgreen less about the pain of a broken heart- but the mind can cause physical pain/symptoms, definately.

Does love control the heart, mind or soul? Why cant it be all three? What if its something else completely- maybe an evolutionary tendency selected for because of the benefits to the species- long term relationships mean that the few children people have (compared to other mammals usually) are more likely to survive, you have a guaranteed breeding partner (xD), sharing resources means you are both more likely to survive....

I like to think love is something deeper than evolution. But maybe i'm evolutionarily wired to think that mrgreen

well, there's that "broken heart syndrome" where you can actually go into heart failure over a painful emotional loss or trauma, but...

since your whole body is controlled by your brain, i say everything's in it. soul/heart/whatever. all in the brain.

BRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAINS!!! mrgreen

Don't tell me you and mike have had a falling out sad
How's Kait?

I think it's more of a mental thing. but when me and my ex broke up my heart ached so much but it's probably just my mind trying to express my pain and that was the only way.

Allow me to explain.

The heart is an organ that pumps blood. It is controlled by the brain. The soul is a collection of experiences registered by the brain. As the brain reads in new experiences, it's internal architecture changes, and your emotional responses change. When the brain experiences certain emotions that it is familiar with, it releases various chemicals into the body that create the pain experienced with emotional response.

For example:
Your loved one breaks up with you. Your "soul" or experiences registers that this should cause pain. This causes the brain to release peptides which travel to the chest, causing a tightening feeling, or "heartbreak". Because the pain is in the chest, people think it's their heart. But it's actually caused by the brain.

1) does love control the heart, mind or soul, or is it something which we build through our lives.
Option three. Love doesn't control anything, instead it's something that you give meaning to.

2) is the pain we feel something we fabricate
Yes and no. There is ACTUAL pain, caused by ACTUAL signals from ACTUAL cells in your body, but it's not caused by physical damage; this pain is to blame on the brain.

Think of souls as the practical individuality of people. What keeps identical twins from thinking the same thoughts. A collection of your personal revelations and beliefs.

It most definitely exists in the context of this thread.

oh lol, when people talk about souls i always think of it in the immortal sense xD

It's basically in the brain, which sends signals to your heart, like what to feel when you go through heart break or losing someone.