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What sparked this question is a notice that was sent home to everyone in my school district even the 1st graders got it. In this notice the principal explained about a new destructive "phase" as he called it in which kids place a rope or anything else around their neck and strangle themselves till they pass out. They do this in groups so that when you pass out they remove the object. I personaly did not recieve this notice because my mom has all mail sent to her job because she no longer trust its safe journey to her, But I saw 3 of these memos hanging on my friends refrigirator. Her parents are two of those awsome parents totaly cool with everything so they hung it up as in haha so funny. But I saw 3 and that disturbed me, because I could understand 2 of them. One for my friend marissa who is going into 10th grade and in high school and one for her younger sister an 8th grader in middle school. But the 3rd? Was for her 4th grade brother.... A 4TH GRADER! It bothered me so much cause he heard me ranting and came in to tell me he had never heard about it untill he was read the notice and his sisters explained it to him, he then told me his friends considered trying it because of what they had heard!
When I got home from sleeping at her house I opened the front door to see my mother home she asked me sit down and asked to see my neck, Asking if this was about the "Memo" she said yes and showed me the part were it advised parents to check their childrens necks for marks. I couldn't believe it, I explained how I viewed this as stupid and yelled how people who do this are morons!

Cutting,eating disorders,strangulation.........Why? Of all the stupid stuff in the world you could do as a "Phase or fad" Or "For control" Or "For attention" why this? I mean strangling yourself? Whatever happened to partying so hard you dont rember what happened? If I had to pick I would chose the last one. But why do any of that? Besides the partying what makes those other 3 "fun"?

No need to double post, this forum isn't that fast.

As for self-strangulation and other forms of self-abuse, the psychological reasons behind the need to cause pain or damage to oneself are numerous and complicated beyond anything that can be applied to everyone who partakes in it. Some people do it because they get off on pain or asphyxiation, others because they have suicidal tendencies. Some (like you mentioned) are doing it for attention, and some simply do it because it's popular.

Personally, I place the fault on the parents for not telling their kids that it's DANGEROUS to mess around with things like razor blades or rope or whatever kids are using these days. We have public service announcements for stuff like cigarettes and drugs (don't argue semantics with me at the moment, you understand my meaning), which parents generally know and warn their kids about regularly. Parents even talk to their kids about promiscuis sexual intercourse and risk of STDs. But they don't bother to talk with their kids about flirting with suicide? You can't just assume that kids "know" these things, and you can't assume that your kids are never going to fall in with "that crowd."

It's not as if this is a new thing either, self-abuse has been going on in some form or another for what I imagine must be decades, if not a century.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with warning kids of dangers that they might encounter in their age group, it's the reason we warn them of talking with strangers. I think the biggest problem was HOW they chose to warn the kids. When you make them think that "it's a growing trend," all it tells them is that it's popular and that they should try it. Parents should be able to talk with their kids and, not so much explain, but make more obvious the dangers of choking yourself.

They are dangerous (we know that) but the morons don't so their death can't be helped unless you go and warn ever single moron in this big place we call world stare .

You are so right. My family is a hospital family. We all work at a hospital. And every singal night was get druggies, cutters, attamped suicides! Its so disturbing! And NONE OF THEM WANT HELP! They think it's cool to try to die! Well in their mind it's not dying... but a near death experience. And they won't ever learn till they realize if they cut a little to deep... take too much of a dose... that they will die. We are not immortal. we are human. And they only way they'll learn to to see a friend die or to be told that they are dying. And if thay happens, some just give up. I try to be kind to them and show them how wonderful life is. But they wont listen. So the only thing I can do left is to continue trying. Now my dad! well... he doesn't take any of their bull s**t. Heres a quote form him. "If you want to die, fine go and die on your own time. If 'you' think 'your' not worth anything, why should anyone else give a s**t? Luckily for you, you have a nurse that does care for the human race, and doesn't want people to die. I also have found things worth living for, and if you can't see it, then you are to ******** stupid. Now shut up and stop your self pity. You are in my care and I will take care of you." Good thing my dad is a manager, or else his a** would be fired. And the quote was about a patient that was a druggie with heart problems, and one more does would kill him. Yet he still wanted his cocain. My dad has done this to many patients, and alot of them went to rehab.

I think I streatched a little... too far from the first post... but... I know I made at least... 1 good point. sweatdrop

its sad that they have to send home things to parents about stuff like that but the timesare changing for the worst in a lot of thing

kids do this to get a 'natural high' something about the brain not receiving any oxygen thus you pass out and when you wake up you receive this natural high which is immense loads of oxygen flowing back into your brain. its dangerous because people can strangle themselves to death. i believe its called the 'pass-out game'

i don't really know what it means.. but abucive is not cool dude! not at all!!