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Posted: Thu Nov 30, 2006 7:45 pm
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Posted: Thu Nov 30, 2006 9:06 pm
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Well, in my opinion, he needs to understand that being in a relationship isn't necessary. If he's made it this far without a girlfriend, what's the hurry of getting one now? I have a boyfriend, and maybe for that he would think I can't have an opinion on this whole "being alone issue", but I think I can. See, before my current boyfriend, I didn't have anyone, NEVER DID! In fact, I got together with my boyfriend a little after I began college, age 17. So....yeah. Being in a relationship is not needed. The only need for it would be social standard, and not even that, because this thought is self-imposed thanks to society itself bitching about relationships and all. But one can fair just as well without a partner, friends are enough. On that department, that crush on you may simply be him trying to get someone, ANYONE, and since you've known eachother for so long, who better than you? Anyway, my suggestion is: try to make him understand that pushing things and simply "looking like crazy for a girlfriend" doesn't work except for getting him depressed and s**t. He better than anyone should know that, since he IS going through it xp
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Posted: Fri Dec 01, 2006 1:41 pm
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Posted: Sat Dec 09, 2006 8:39 pm
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he's gotten himself into the mindset many guys are in, myself once included. my guess is that he thinks being single isn't ok, and one has to have a girlfriend to survive. well, he seems a heck of a lot smarter than most guys who fall into this trap, because he wants to be with someone who he really enjoys, and not any old person. but still you have to get it into his head that being single is perfectly fine. some people prefer it. if it's not that, well, you're gonna have to explain why you won't be a good couple, and that you really like him as a friend, and if you go out, when you break up, you won't be friends anymore, in all likelyhood (I do have friends who stayed friends after breadking up, but it took a while before things stopped being awkward). say you wanna keep him as a friend for a while longer.
a mouthful, I know, but it's all true to most guys.
K
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Posted: Sun Dec 10, 2006 12:30 am
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Posted: Sun Dec 17, 2006 7:40 pm
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Posted: Tue Dec 19, 2006 10:57 pm
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cool, I disagree with everyone. ^^; (unless I misread someone's statement... ^.^ )
anyway, I think he is already aware that being single isn't a bad thing. he doesn't need anybody to tell him that, because he already knows and has heard it all before. he wants you to listen, and to understand what he's going through.
to put it more bluntly, he wants you to close your mouth, and let him talk, and show that you can see where he's coming from.
if you do this, be careful though: this type of stuff can bring people much closer together romantically, meaning he might crush on you even more, and your feelings for him might change as well...
alternatively, you can find someone who you think would be good with, and who wants to be with him and have her do it. ^^ it might help with his self esteem issues a bit because he's getting it out of his system.
=== but then again, that's just me talking with my mouth closed...
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Posted: Fri Dec 29, 2006 5:30 pm
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