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At the end of the last school year, I found that I was becoming attracted to my best friend. See, but she's of the same gender as I am, so it was difficult for me to deal with. I finally told her and she treated me like I had become a completely different person. She started acting rude and mean and she wouldn't treat me like a normal person until I told her that I didn't have feelings for her anymore. I figured that I would just ignore my attraction to members of the same gender, but I now have a "crush" on a girl that I met last year. She knows about my orientation and people that I met this year know, but I can't feel comfortable coming out to the friends that I've had for a while because of the way my best friend treated me.

I also can't tell my parents because my mom's crazy religious and if she finds out, she'll drag me to church to be blessed or hit me in the face with a chair, or something. And though my dad's not religious, he's a total homophobe, so it's pretty much out of the question.

I don't really know what to do. I don't think I'll ever tell my parents, but I am tempted very often to tell my friends. I get scared when I start to tell them, so I just keep it to myself around them.

Well, in regards to your friends I also think that you should tell them. Frankly, I don't have a problem with bi-sexual people because they're still people. All that matters is that they're good people. I think they will accept you for who you are, assuming that they are your real friends because real friends should accept you always. Real friends won't turn you away.

Sexual preference isn't something that you should be discriminated against in close friendships. But, depending on how some people are raised... it can turn out that way... I'd say gradually hint by asking randomly about what they think about certain things pertaining to liking the same gender... see their reactions... if it looks grim don't... if they don't seem bothered try telling them a little later.

No problem

glad to help, even if just a little bit 3nodding whee

If they're really your friends they won't care. Yes, it would be a little akward, but real friends are there for you. Personally, I don't really mind gay/bi people, that's there choice- just leave me out of it. But I think it would be a little freaky to learn that your best friend of the same gender has a crush on you, but that is no excuss for her to treat you rudely. Try and put yourself in your friend's shoes and when you tell them, it may make things a little easier for everyone wink

Yeah, basically, the worst thing to do is to keep your feelings hidden from them. All that can come from that is more pain. Just be yourself when you do tell them. Treat it as just another thing.

He'll always be my