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 Posted: Sun Jul 08, 2007 1:42 am
Love Theory
When someone is looking for love it is then that they feel it.
Perhaps the whole “there is no real love ” opinion of mine is even more true then I had originally thought.
Example one: Kagome’s friend Ino.
She’s looking to fall in love because she wants to get married at a young age. Feeling that her time to find Mister Right is running out she looks to any guy she can to get that feeling she desirers. Ino proclaims that because of her current boyfriend she knows what it’s like to be in love, that he is the right one for her, and she has found her true love. However she also has stated the same thing about the other four boyfriend she’s had... This so called ‘Love’ she feels is all in her head. Not to say that her boyfriend doesn’t really care for her but rather that love is a matter of the mind and not the heart.
Example two: Myself.
Shearis has a boyfriend but feels no love for him, or at least not the kind that seams real. I’m not looking for love for fear of being hurt and tend to be distant for that emotion as much as possible. Since Shearis is not looking for love and doesn’t believe in love she can’t love. After all if you do not try then there is nothing to accomplish..
Conclusion: Love is all in the mind.
If two people who are looking for love find one another and feeling are returned then perhaps that is ‘love’. Both partners have to be will to have the emotion and combined by interest and such a bound is created. Weather this ‘bound’ is love or not is hard to say... lover are pretty much friends on a higher level...Or some s**t like that...
((Names changed for the safety of whom I speak.))
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Posted: Sun Jul 08, 2007 7:44 pm
I totally understand what you mean by love is all in the mind, but there is also a good point i would like to make. in my opinion if you don't believe in something it doesn't exist. (well if it isn't a tangilble thing). I think that if someone doesn't believe in God then God does not exist in their life. the same goes with love. If you believe in love and you work towards finding love there is a good chance you will find love. love isn't something that just pops up out of nowhere and then its happily ever after. love takes work. any relationship of any kind takes work. loving someone is a mutual thing i think.
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Posted: Wed Jul 11, 2007 7:47 pm
i agree with nannerz_loves_you
if you believe in something it will have a good chance to be true. life isn't fair but we try to make life the best for ourselves
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Posted: Wed Jul 11, 2007 9:03 pm
My experience is that you will find love when you are not looking for it. For example, I found my current boyfriend (whom I love very much heart ) when I was dating someone else. The romance had left the previous relationship, and we decided it wasn't working, so I started dating my current bf. I wasn't looking, in fact, I thouht I had found it, but it snuck up on me without warning. Take it easy, love will find you, eventually, whether you notice it or not. Just let love happen. smile Oh yea, and don't be afraid to get hurt, trust me, the pain will fade, it just might take a little while. 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Jul 12, 2007 12:24 am
nannerz_loves_you I totally understand what you mean by love is all in the mind, but there is also a good point i would like to make. in my opinion if you don't believe in something it doesn't exist. (well if it isn't a tangilble thing). I think that if someone doesn't believe in God then God does not exist in their life. the same goes with love. If you believe in love and you work towards finding love there is a good chance you will find love. love isn't something that just pops up out of nowhere and then its happily ever after. love takes work. any relationship of any kind takes work. loving someone is a mutual thing i think. I disagree. Just because someone thinks something doesnt exist doesnt mean it doesnt. I for example never believed in love. I didnt look for it i didnt want it but yet i still found it. I dont have to work hard to keep my relationship thriving but it grows everyday.
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Posted: Thu Jul 12, 2007 3:34 am
(sic) Sephiroth nannerz_loves_you I totally understand what you mean by love is all in the mind, but there is also a good point i would like to make. in my opinion if you don't believe in something it doesn't exist. (well if it isn't a tangilble thing). I think that if someone doesn't believe in God then God does not exist in their life. the same goes with love. If you believe in love and you work towards finding love there is a good chance you will find love. love isn't something that just pops up out of nowhere and then its happily ever after. love takes work. any relationship of any kind takes work. loving someone is a mutual thing i think. I disagree. Just because someone thinks something doesnt exist doesnt mean it doesnt. I for example never believed in love. I didnt look for it i didnt want it but yet i still found it. I dont have to work hard to keep my relationship thriving but it grows everyday. †If you wish not to be swallowed by the fear of Evil...
I kinda have to agree with this person above me.
Simply not believing in something doesn’t make it any less real. Just unaware and less likely to see it.
In the case of though it makes it’s harder to know weather what your feeling is real or not.
Like otakusan123189 said, sometimes the feeling you have for a person fade..
…then just become Evil yourself.†
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Posted: Thu Jul 12, 2007 5:26 am
hmm normally I would believe this...
but considering I fell in love with someone unintentionally and against the will of my mind...I don't know what to think
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Posted: Thu Jul 12, 2007 3:51 pm
otakusan123189 My experience is that you will find love when you are not looking for it. For example, I found my current boyfriend (whom I love very much heart ) when I was dating someone else. The romance had left the previous relationship, and we decided it wasn't working, so I started dating my current bf. I wasn't looking, in fact, I thouht I had found it, but it snuck up on me without warning. Take it easy, love will find you, eventually, whether you notice it or not. Just let love happen. smile Oh yea, and don't be afraid to get hurt, trust me, the pain will fade, it just might take a little while. 3nodding i agree wit otakusan i fell helplessly in love wit me current (n first) bf ... tho i thought i wouldnt n look at me now im so much happier i also agree wit nannerz_loves_you and alternateworlds dont ppl feel that "heartbreaking" moment?, its not ur mind that hurts its ur heart ( dont try n tell me scientific logical mumbo jumbo cuz i dont kare ) i believe real love does exist it just takes time 2 find ... well dont go lookin 4 it or u'll waste ur time ... ( crushes long story dont ask )
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Posted: Thu Jul 12, 2007 9:18 pm
ok
now, i dun think anyone has taken in the idea that love does not have to be forever and all time.I think love will last as long as it is needed to last. if you love someone and fall out of love with them, it might not be that they werent right for you. it might be that yo needed to learn something from the experience of loving them.
Also, there are different types of love. loving your family, loving a friend, the contented love of a spouse-type(or longterm relationship), or the exciting romantic love. i have another theory that the romantic kind is sort of a test run for the contented kind. A "perhaps this is the one".
But now that i think of it, love is sort of a need to be appreciated and such. So it could last for any amount of time.
Im done.
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Posted: Fri Jul 13, 2007 6:18 am
Aurelia the Neko Witch ok now, i dun think anyone has taken in the idea that love does not have to be forever and all time.I think love will last as long as it is needed to last. if you love someone and fall out of love with them, it might not be that they werent right for you. it might be that yo needed to learn something from the experience of loving them. Also, there are different types of love. loving your family, loving a friend, the contented love of a spouse-type(or longterm relationship), or the exciting romantic love. i have another theory that the romantic kind is sort of a test run for the contented kind. A "perhaps this is the one". But now that i think of it, love is sort of a need to be appreciated and such. So it could last for any amount of time. Im done.
I actually really like this opinion of yours.
...It’s were she lays broken inside. †
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Posted: Thu Jul 19, 2007 6:20 pm
well this might sound totally cheezy but I mean there are so many different types of loves. There is the boyfriend/girlfriend love where they love eachother and they want to be together and care for eachother. there is the parent love where they love you no matter what you do. theres the friend love where they say it when you did something totally weird or funny and they love you for tht and then there is love where you have to believe you rly love tht person or thing for it to work.. ok tht was cheesy but its kinda true
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Posted: Sat Jul 21, 2007 5:14 am
I do agree, to an extent. I know very much too well that someone who just wants to love and be loved can convince themself that they are in love. I have been in relationships where I thought I was in love, but then later realized that what I felt was just an empty shell of a thing called love, and that there was no real bond with the person. I see my friend who is desperate to have someone to love keep going back to someone who keeps hurting him over and over again.
On the other hand, I do believe that real love exists. It's a lot easier to find if you're not actively looking for it. Sometimes you just really feel that connection with someone and you fall in love.
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Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 9:01 pm
First off:
Love isn't mutual, you can love someone without anybody in the world knowing
secondly:
There is someone out there who will fit you, whether you believe in love or not. There will be someone you adore and they will make you love or whatever you want to call it.
thirdly:
what's with everyone "closing themselves off to avoid the pain" that's just gonna make things worse. get a clue
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Posted: Wed Jul 25, 2007 10:15 pm
Umm, reading the posts... I really don't mean to be rude... but...
of course love is all in the mind!
There is no supernatural super amazing wonderful force that binds all things made out of rainbows and candy.
All "love" is, is a set series of chemical reactions that fire off in the brain in reaction to possible, or existing mates.
Evolutionarily there could be any number of reasons why it happens, mating, protection, offspring care, etc.
Sorry to ruin the "magic" of it, but, theres nothing... well... magical about it
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Posted: Wed Jul 25, 2007 11:36 pm
yea, love has to be in the mind cause we're kinda the ones that made it up in the first place
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