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*BIG BIG BIG HUG!!!*

*is speechless... for once*

Wow. Ok, well, I find that when I read a book, I'm highly affected by it until I finish it. The more it pulls me in, the more affected I am, and the harder it is to bring myself back to reality. But I love it, because it allows me to live another life, go on adventures that I can't in the real world.
Also, you're growing up. You change. People change in general. If you didn't, I'd be worried about you. What you can do whenever you find yourself depressed, or being pessimistic, is to tell yourself that there is always going to be something that will make it all better, whether it's something small, like seeing your friends, or the guy you like (whether or not he's taken, you're always free to look and dream), getting a good grade in a class you don't do well in, or something big, like going on vacation, or christmas, or the weekend, or just a new book. Always say that there will be something better tomorrow. Or today. Have something to look forward to everyday.

As for guys, hon, you don't need them. They need us. Just tell yourself that you are beautiful, and that you will always be loved, by friends, family, and a guy, or several. (There are probably one or more guys in your school that like you and are just to shy to admit it) If you get depressed by a breakup or something, give yourself a time limit to wallow in, and I don't mean 15 minutes, more like a couple weeks. If you've been with guy for a long time, a breakup can come as a shock, because its a sudden change in life, and we humans are habitual creatures. Don't be depressed, but don't hide it either. Be yourself. If you really want to get over a guy, have an imaginary relationship with a perfect guy. Make him up, or choose a character from a movie or TV show or something, and give him the perfect personality, then daydream about what you would do together, where you would go on dates, what adventures you would have, etc.

And like I said, you are changing. Becoming more responsible. Just let it go, and watch yourself as you become a beautiful young adult. If you don't like something about yourself, don't just mope about it, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!! You can change yourself more than any other person or experience can.

And when you look at situations and think about what you would normally do, DON'T THINK, just do, because then you will probably like the result much better.

woo, now I'm tired out, so if you want anymore help, or advice or just want to talk, send me a pm.

Talk to you later!
Lauren

yea...... i know the feeling of losing urself... i havnt been my old self for a year... when i gave up a girl... a part of me left with her...and ive felt very hallow ever sense