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My boyfriend was an alcoholic and a drug addict, so I broke up with him. Then, after he went back to SC to live with his mom, he tells me how he is living in a room that's smaller than my tiny bathroom and that his mom and brother are treating him like s**t, so I feel terrible that his family treats him like dirt. For a week he tries to convince me that he has changed and that he has learned his lesson for treating me like s**t. He told me how if I don't give him another chance, he will have no other option but to join the military. This made me feel bad like I did something wrong by leaving him, so I tell him I'll give him one last chance.

Now that he's back, he's changed alright. He checks my phone more than I do. He questions me every time I talk to someone. He claims that I am allowed to have friends and do whatever I want, but it doesn't feel that way if he is always wanting to know what I'm doing and who I'm doing it with. He even gets pissed off because I feel like I'm not allowed to have any friends. He knows exactly what the hell he is doing that's causing me to feel this way, so really he is angry at himself. He won't stop embarrassing me. He posts these long crazy messages on my wall on Facebook about how much he loves me. If you read them, you would know what I mean when I say he sounds crazy when he writes that stuff on my wall. Something is seriously wrong with him. I'm so ******** tired of him posting embarrassing s**t on my wall, so I disabled wall postings from friends. In addition, I changed my password because I know he logs into my Facebook every day so he can see who I am talking to and about what. Today, I changed my password and the second I get home from school he questions me on why I changed my password. So, I asked him if he's been logging onto my Facebook daily and snooping around. He counter attacks me with "you gave me permission a long time ago to get on your Facebook whenever I want." Firstly, yes I did, but not to snoop through my messages daily, and question me on my conversations with people. I could understand if the messages were suspicious looking but they are not. I've thought about deleting my Facebook many times because of him but that wouldn't be fair to me, because Facebook is how I keep in touch with friends. I've even considered making a new account but he would find it through my family's friends list.

I feel as if I have no privacy. I feel like I'm not my own person anymore. I let him come back to give him options besides military. Instead, he comes back reading way too much into my life. He may not be drinking anymore, but now he is insecure and controlling. I feel like I made a huge mistake letting him come back. I don't feel safe talking to anyone about this because he will find it somehow someway. Gaia is the only place he doesn't have access to. I wish I had never met him. He has so many abusive qualities and he can't even see them himself. I swear, I hate him. Corey never treated me this way. I miss him more than anything.